Below are 20 quotes that have helped me stay grounded, cared for and sane:

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“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” ― Peggy O’Mara
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“Don’t stand unmoving outside the door of a crying baby whose only desire is to touch you. Go to your baby. Go to your baby a million times. Demonstrate that people can be trusted, that the environment can be trusted, that we live in a benign universe.” ― Peggy O’Mara
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“Take the time to listen to children. Believe what they tell you about themselves.” — Issa Waters
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“We must remember that one day our children are going to follow our example instead of our advice.” — Carolina King
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“If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others.” — Haim Ginott
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“After a moment, he calmed enough to see how his anger was a separate thing inside him, a dingy, surprise gift from his father.” ― Maggie Stiefvater, The Dream Thieves
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“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.” — Anne Lamott
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“You don’t have to love yourself in muttered whispers while loving everyone else with a megaphone.” ― Jasmine Farrell
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“I hate men who are afraid of women’s strength.” — Anaïs Nin
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“It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.” — Warsan Shire
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“Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer from having a problem. To raise problem solvers, focus on solutions, not retribution.” — L. R. Knost
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“When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.” — L. R. Knost
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“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” —Buddha
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“Be so completely yourself that everyone else feels safe to be themselves, too.” —Unknown
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“Keep watering yourself. You’re growing.” — E. Russell
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“Ever had a job where you had no experience, no training, you weren’t allowed to quit and people’s lives were at stake? That’s parenting.” — Unknown
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“Having kids makes you look stable to the people who thought you were crazy and crazy to the people who thought you were stable.” — Kelly Oxford
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“Saying ‘no’ to your children, when appropriate, is an act of love.” — Frank Sonnenberg, ‘Listen To Your Conscience’
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“Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.” — Bill Ayers
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“We must teach our children to dream with their eyes open.” — Harry Edwards
I also like to remind myself that my kids are always making memories. Usually my little voice whispers this to me when I have been yelling a lot (I’m working on it), but then I chose to give them a memory of an apology rather than needless screaming.