Get in the Picture: Thoughts From a Newborn Photographer

Get in the Picture: Thoughts From a Newborn Photographer
Photo By: Stephanie Warmoth Photography.

As a photographer that shot primarily newborn photos for a long time, I have met many new moms. About 80% of them either do not want to be in the newborn photos or are reluctant to do so. It is a miracle if they are ready to be photographed by the three-month milestone pictures.

Postpartum health and healing is tough, and sometimes the last thing moms want to do is see if their favorite dress from 10 months ago still fits. 

I was the same way. After having my last biological child, we decided to splurge on some very nice professional newborn photos. I was so tired from extended visits and a second hospital stay that I didn’t even get dressed. Did I mention that Joseph was 11 pounds and 3 oz?! So I thought I’d save our photographer from the horror. I figured if she saw my botched makeup job, ill-fitting clothes and tire rack belly, she wouldn’t even dream of asking me to step in. But she had been around a while and knew exactly how important it is for moms to get in the photographs.

Fast-forward a few years. I was in the middle of my busiest photography year yet, when I received a sobering phone call from a friend of a family I had recently worked with. I vividly remember the session; they were funny, they loved each other and they had one very excited pre-teen big sister. We chatted so much during the session and we stayed in contact with a few exchanges the weeks after.

All of these memories ran through my head as I listened. This friend was calling to request the family’s photos so they could be used in the mother’s funeral. She had unexpectedly passed away, and I had taken the only professional photos of them as a family with their newborn baby boy. The magnitude of newborn photography and the very real risk of postpartum complications were never more real to me than in that moment.

I delivered the images with the condolences, and I sobbed through the task.

This incident took me back to my own session and the fight I put up with my photographer. I ended up loving those pictures so much that I upgraded my package just to have them and all the other amazing ones we had planned for and captured. We are fortunate to live in an age of cell phones and extremely nice quick snap photos. But the professional photos were amazing, sweet and definitely something I would want my family to cherish if something were to happen.

My advice as a newborn photographer is this: get in the picture. Life is always shorter than we want it to be. I am guilty of not getting in the photos too. As a photographer, I am always snapping photos of others. It took a social medial hashtag for me to realize just how many I was not in.

If you are hesitant to be photographed, I would advise you to find a professional photographer that is skilled in lighting, posing and newborn safety. Pick an outfit that is comfortable and makes you feel great and jump in there.

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Hello! I'm Jessica. I grew up in Northern Indiana where I joined the Navy right out of high school. After 3 deployments and some amazing port calls I married a fellow sailor and began a family. We moved around a few times in search of a forever city. After a few visits to the Chattanooga area we fell in love and set in motion our move to the highly recommended Signal Mountain. I am slowly chipping away at my marketing degree while working part time at a local marketing agency. I am also a huge portrait photography lover and have a small studio up here on Signal Mountain where I shoot luxury portrait for children and women. You can check out my work at We have 2 kiddos, Jazzy(6) who's larger than life and Joseph(3) who is taking his sweet time growing up. We have always planned to adopt as well and are currently awaiting a match for a big sister in need of a loving home. I also volunteer as a court advocate for abused and neglected children in the area. It's a great program and you can check out more at You can find me binging true crime podcasts and dark drama shows late at night. I'm a serial hobbyist, I'll never turn down an iced coffee, I actually try hard not to cuss like a sailor and I love meeting different kinds of people.


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