If you have followed my blogs for some time, you will know that I recently graduated with a Doctorate in Education, and what a journey it was! While my coursework was challenging and the dissertation process was extremely intense, the biggest struggle in working to become Dr. Jordan was balancing it with a more important title: mom. You see, I completed my previous degrees long before kids were ever on my radar, so this was my first rodeo as a student and mother. I quickly learned that though the decision to go back to school is both admirable and rewarding, balancing coursework with parenting can be tough.
As many colleges and universities are now in full swing and the demand of juggling academic ambitions with family life begins, I want to share six essential tips to help you navigate this exciting transition and set yourself up for success:
1. Use Your Village and Ask for Help
No one succeeds in isolation, and returning to college is no exception. Utilize your support network — family, friends, and neighbors — by asking for help when needed. Whether watching the kids while you attend class or lending a hand with homework, involving your village can make a significant difference. Don’t hesitate to reach out and communicate your needs. A strong support system can be a game-changer, providing both practical assistance and emotional encouragement.
2. Hire a Cleaning Service
Keeping up with household chores can be overwhelming when you are juggling school and family, so consider hiring a cleaning service to ease the burden. This investment can free up valuable time and reduce stress, allowing you to focus on your studies and spend quality time with your family. Even a bi-weekly or a monthly service can help maintain a clean and organized home without adding to your already full plate.
3. Barter with Other Moms in School
Building relationships with other moms also returning to college can open up opportunities for mutual support. Barter with fellow students or parents to share responsibilities such as carpooling, babysitting, or studying together. For instance, you could offer to help with a class project in exchange for childcare or coordinate study sessions to tackle difficult material together. Creating a network of supportive peers can make your academic journey more manageable and less isolating.
4. Work While They Sleep
We all know this is great advice for moms of newborns, but it is truly applicable in this instance too. One of the most effective ways to find time for studying is to work during your children’s downtime. Early mornings, nap times, and late nights can be productive periods for focusing on assignments and reading. Establish a quiet, dedicated study space and set up a schedule that aligns with your kids’ routines. By making the most of these quiet hours, you can ensure that you stay on top of your coursework without sacrificing precious family time.
5. Set Realistic Expectations
It’s crucial to set realistic expectations for yourself. Understand that you won’t be able to do everything perfectly and that it’s okay to prioritize certain aspects of your life over others. Communicate openly with your professors and family about your commitments and any potential challenges. Setting achievable goals and being flexible with your expectations can help reduce stress and prevent burnout.
6. Keep the End in Mind
Throughout your journey, keep the end goal in sight. Remind yourself why you decided to return to college and visualize the benefits that will come from earning your degree. This forward-thinking perspective can motivate during challenging times. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy; focus on your unique path, celebrate your progress, and avoid comparing your journey to others. Stay centered on your goals, your children, and the positive impact your education will have on your family’s future.
Returning to college as a mom is a remarkable achievement, and with the right strategies, you can manage the challenges that come with it. Embrace your journey, lean on your support system, and know that there is a network of women who have accomplished this very thing in your corner rooting for you.
In fact, I dedicated my dissertation to you: “To every mother in pursuit of a higher education, run when you can, walk if you need to, crawl if you must, but by all means, keep going! I’ll see you at the finish line!”
